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- Work Smarter #51: How I Learnt to Say No
December 14, 2011

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Hi, Kell here!

Welcome to the Work Smarter Not Harder Newsletter #51.

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Learning to say No is so important for many people. But I found myself in a situation where the work was just piling up, and there were constant requests for me to do more and more work.

Before I knew it I was working longer and longer hours and spending less and less time on those things important to my work and personal life. The crunch point came when my work life balance was skewed to the point that life was work, and stress and job burnout was my constant companion.

“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life”

- Unknown

Learning to say “No” sounds easy but is much more difficult to put into practice. There are two general reasons why people have difficult saying “No”.

One of the main reasons it is difficult to say “No” is that we want to maintain happy and positive relationships with others and saying “No” has the potential to put your relationship on the backburner.

The second main reason is that some people get a lot of personal satisfaction from getting things done and being seen as the the person who knows how to do it and can do it and get it done on time. They like to be seen as the “Go To” person.

The problem is that if you don’t learn how to say “No” then work will pile higher and higher and there will be more requests for you to get things done.

The consequence is that then you will end up doing longer and longer hours at work and spending less and less time on those tasks that are most important to you (but may be important or urgent for the requester).

Here are Two Tips to Say No

  1. Have a schedule of how you plan to spend your time makes it easier to say No. See this tip on how to say No..
  2. Learn to say No with actually saying No.

Learning to say "No" is difficult and uncomfortable.

Have a number of stock phrases and practice them and see which ones go down well.

Do you have any tips to say 'No'? If so, please pay it forward and share it with others here so that we can improve our site for our most valuable resource


All the best,

Dr Kell and the team at Effective Time Management Strategies.

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